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“Friend Line”
When you see “Police Line Do Not Cross” this is a pretty clear message and you know not to cross that line. Don’t you wish the friend vs. dating line was so clear? You spend months working on a woman who you would like to date, and when you bring up the issue, uh oh you have been sidelined, friendship benched. You question your game, your skills as a player in the game, and you have no idea why the woman has now brought in a new star quarterback. The line between friendship and relationship is unclear, broken, crooked, and for most men, completely hidden. Women are the ones with the sticks in their hands, and they are the ones who draw the line in the sand.
But fear not, there are ways to avoid the friend zone and continue to be the MVP in the dating game.
#1. Never, ever be a girl’s best friend and confidant before a relationship commences. I know it seems callous and mean, but the minute that she is unloading all of her problems on you, you have already lost her. Allowing her to find trust in you and allowing her to come to you and share her day is one thing. Indulging her emotional roller coast and being her girlfriend’s shoulder is quite another.
#2. Including sexual innuendo with in your conversations, if they are not crass and out of line, will go a long way to establishing that you are not in it just for the emotional baggage. Women know that they control sex. They know that men will do and sit through almost anything in the hopes of having sex. By including a little dirty talk now and then you let her know, without a doubt that you are not her gay best friend.
#3. Do not be needy or clingy. Not only does this make you look desperate, but it also gives the woman the opportunity to walk all over you, because she knows that she has you by your jock strap. A woman wants a man to show confidence and being a sad little puppy does nothing to show the confident man that you are. The “hard to get” game that she plays so often, and drives you wild, is an easy enough game for you to play as well. And you will get the same results from her. Don’t act as though you have been sitting on your computer all night long waiting for her arrival, even if you have, don’t let her know that. Let her hear about your exciting life and your wild nights out on the town, it’s ok to exaggerate a little bit about how fun you are having in your life with or without her. A woman wants a relationship to be fun, and will look for a man who knows how to have fun. Just try not to over exaggerate things. If you had a few beers with friends, don’t tell her that you got on the bar at the Coyote Ugly, danced dirty with all the hot bartenders, and finished the night exploring the bottom of your toilet bowl. Find a good middle when you spice up your details.
#4. Beware the woman who is asking you about dating advice. If she is asking you what she should do with Bob her co-worker turned lover, then walk away. You have already run the touchdown in for the other team. It’s time to walk off the field and try another sport.
#5. Be a challenge. Women want someone who is a conquest, not someone who is openly available for squatting. When a woman knows that she has got you, there is no reason to try anymore, and this will bench you quicker than anything else. A great way to avoid being easy territory is to have several women you are talking to. You get to have your pick of the litter and you can leave all of them wanting more of you. Be just enough of a flirt to grab her attention, leave your taste on her lips, and then leave her desiring you. Try to be available in short spurts, this will have her wanting to get to know you better without you over staying your welcome. Try setting up days when you talk to the women. Every two days you talk to A and B, once a week you talk to C, and weekends get reserved for D. Get an idea of how much you want to talk to these woman and in your own mind schedule it out. If you find yourself obsessing over one woman, try to fight the urge to talk to her all night every night. You will find that this way you can be in control and not be a blubbering idiot when she signs online. Another thing that drives a woman wild is when she sees you online but you don’t IM her first. If you really leave her wanting more then she will rush to talk to you, don’t let it be the other way around. Nothing is more satisfying to a woman than when a man IMs her the second she comes online, because she knows that from that point, she has him.
Make yourself desirable without wearing the stink of desperation and you will have women eating out of your hands, instead of crawling on hands and knees after them. Something to really keep in mind is that dating really is a head game. There are fine lines and hazy rules to follow, one foul move and you can get a penalty, but you are not out of the game yet. Learn to read women, by talking to many of them. Once you can really decipher the few generalities that all women share when it comes to the way they work at dating, you will be way ahead of the game.
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