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“In Dating Limbo”

Dating Limbo, the dreaded place where men sit and wonder whether they should make their move or wait until the time is “more right”. It is this limbo that will lose many a man many a women. Never fear, Chet is here!! And here are 5 signs that a woman is in to you, so wait no more:

#5. The woman has let you know about some of her turn on and off’s. This is simple and basic, but no woman is going to waste her time telling you about her likes and dislikes when it comes to relationships or sex unless she is interested.
Making the move: Share your turn on and off’s. Let her know what makes you hot and bothered, not just what makes you want a relationship with someone, but what fires you up in the bedroom as well. Don’t be crass, but do be influential. Play on things that she has said turn her on and elaborate. Try not to focus on the negatives.

            #4. She has sent you several pictures, all of which are of her in very nice outfits, sexy dresses, hair and make-up completely done, and are of her alone. As long as these pictures are different than the ones already on her profile, then you can be pretty sure that they are just for you.
            Making the move: Send her some nice pictures of you. If you only have the one or two that you took for your profile, then make an effort to take more. Make sure that the pictures you send her are of you when you look your best and when you are dressed sharp. Make sure to compliment her and what she is wearing in those pictures. Do not comment on the backdrop of the photo, comment on a detail about her in the photo. Also, let your compliments be flirtatious in nature, especially play on her desire to be touched. A woman who wears a beautifully low cut dress will love to hear about your fingers lightly caressing her skin as you place a shimmering piece of jewelry around her neck.
            #3. Your sexual innuendo in the conversation is well received, and is reciprocated. A woman who wants to move forward will love your flirtatious teases and will tease you right back.
            Making the move: Play the game of verbal foreplay. See how far you can push the envelope by being sensually suggestive without being down right perverted. A woman wants romance first and sex second. Keep this in mind when you are letting her know what is waiting for her at your place. Be descriptive and be eloquent. Even if you aren’t a Shakespeare you can still succeed at being well versed. All it takes is using a thesaurus every once in a while. Also, don’t change the conversation to complete verbal foreplay. At some point it quiets leaving the woman wanting more and turns into cyber sex and no woman wants that. Use phrases that insight intimate imaginations but don’t over use them, other wise you will use all the tricks up your sleeves.

#2. She has made a point to focus her attention on you. That might mean inactivating her profile for a while, her mentioning that she talks about you to her friends, or being in the IM or phone conversation where there is no delay in response (this means she isn’t paying attention to other things like TV or other IM conversations).
Making the move: Once you notice that there is a pattern of her being focused on you, then you can make the move to move things forward. Determine where you are in your relationship and then decide what the next appropriate step would be. Don’t rush things and don’t make giant leaps, this will scare her off. Suggest where you would like to progress forward to in the near future and find out her thoughts. Her being into you does not mean that she is ready to marry you, so decide on a baby step course of action and let her know what you are feeling. You can adjust these suggestions based on her reaction.

And finally the #1 way to tell if she is into you:

She tells you. I know, it’s a crazy idea, but women, especially women who are done playing the dating game, will let you know how they feel and where they want to go. This is the easiest way to know that she wants you, but woman can also say so with out using the words, “I want you.” Women are cryptic, mysterious creatures and sometimes you have to read between the lines, but if you have been talking for a while, then you should be able to read her fairly well even if you are strictly online. If you need some help, ask a girl friend of your own. All women, even though most will never admit it, speak woman. They can decode what another woman is saying and thinking and feeling and had for breakfast just by a few lines of text. Ok, maybe not the breakfast thing, but definitely the other stuff. If your woman of interest is speaking Greek to you when it comes to her signals and signs, then get a translator.
Making the move: Just Do It! Tell her how you feel and where you want to go from there. A no nonsense woman who will let you know that she is attracted to you will be ready for that conversation and will welcome it. You can hash out details here and move forward.

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