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Dating Tips: What You Must Know BEFORE Getting Started - Part 1

Being single isn’t easy. Everybody knows that.

But sometimes, dating, and playing “the game” is an even HARDER experience to handle.

After all, what are REAL rules... and which ones apply to you and your situation?

Plus, are there rules you can bend, and if so, when are you supposed to bend them, and for who?

Sheesh, we haven’t even got started yet and already this seems complicated!

Well, relax. First off, dating is complicated... and understanding women and the rules of “the game” is even more complicated.

That’s why here at chetsdatingsystem.com, we’re constantly striving to give YOU the very best insight into what makes women tick, and how to get “inside” their minds so you can leverage this knowledge into ultimately finding a successful partner and soulmate.

After all, when you wipe away all the bullshit, isn’t that what every guy’s looking for?

Good then.

First, let’s take a look at some revealing statistics from a recent poll of both men and women.

Here’s something curious: 53% of all people HAVE dated more than one person at the same time.

What’s your take on that?

Is it right? Is it wrong?

I mean, if everyone’s supposedly looking for their soul mate, yet most of us are dating someone else at the same time while we’re looking for our soul mates...

Something’s probably wrong, no?

Just something to think about.

Another really cool thing -- and a sign that we really ARE on the same page -- is that 71% of all daters believe in “love at first sight”.

And while I’ve never fallen in love, and I’m not sure I really and truly believe in love at “first” sight”, I DO believe that when you find “THE one”, you’ll “sense” it sooner... rather than later.

And how about this: In case you’re one of those guys who thinks women only dig “studly” looking men -- which, by the way, is what all women say about us -- out of 10 features, including looks, physique, sense of humor, eyes, popularity, smile, hair, education and career... “personality” came in as the MOST important feature of a potential partner, with a 30% response.

In fact, physique, career, build, and education came in at the bottom, which tells me when it comes down to it, if you’ve got the “right” person... looks, money, and even body-type, simply do NOT matter.

What’s your lesson here?

Simple: Be yourself, and focus on improving your MIND-SET first (personality and sense of humor came in one-two), and being happy with yourself. Because reality is, if your happy with who YOU are and what’s going on in your OWN life, it’ll be a LOT easier for other people to be happy with, and around you.

And here’s yet another reason why you need to work on your mind-set first. 29% of all relationships break up because of infidelity!

Listen dude, you can’t play both sides of the fence here!

The truth is, even though I’ve had more women than I can literally remember, whenever I am in a “relationship”, I’m faithful!

After all, isn’t that the point of being in “a relationship” in the first place?

And speaking of “relationships”, people have some “weird” definitions of that word in the first place. For instance, would you believe 25% of people surveyed don’t even consider it a “relationship” until their partner says “I Love You!”

Holy marriage counselor, Batman!

No wonder things are so tough out there, and no wonder why people are rushing headlong into “deep” relationships. Shit, if you have to tell every single woman you date you love her, in order to be in a “relationship”... all that’s doing is creating a bunch of false promises and false pretenses!

I guess this shows people’s reluctance to commitment and to opening up with one another, but it sure seems like the tail is wagging the dog here.

“Normally” (as if you can figure out what THAT means anymore), you date for a while... get comfortable with one another... and THEN fall in love.

Look, that’s why you must continually be meeting new people ALL the time if you’re single, and hopefully you’ll stumble across one or two, every now and again, where there’s some chemistry and your relationship can grow, “naturally”.

And here’s yet another eye-opener: 78% of people (that’s more than 3 out of every 4 people) feel their partner is NOT being 100% truthful with them on a date.

Now what does THAT tell you?

It tells you there are a lot of people out there who’ve been hurt before and so they’re jaded about new relationships and guarded about what they’re willing to say and do themselves.

Know what I say:

What A Wonderful Opportunity For You!

Why?

The answer is simple:

If YOU are the kind of person who’s actually 100% honest about things, and the woman you’re with sees you’re good for your word, then you’ll be perceived as being refreshingly “different” and genuine, as opposed to all the guys out there who ARE liars and bullshit artists.

That doesn’t mean you want to go out and tell your hot new date about your acrimonious divorce from your first ex-wife... and your problems with premature ejaculation, all on the first night out -- use some common sense here -- but it DOES mean if you can be the nice caring person you are without trying to show off or “impress” her, then you’ll be the RARE guy she meets... who’s honest.

And THAT... will turn her on... Big-Time!

Remember, it’s all about being different from everybody else. Not “off-the-wall” different, but surprisingly and vibrantly different.

Till next time.