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The Woman with Diamonds in Her Eyes

You have seen her. Maybe you have seen her at your office, maybe you noticed her at a bar, maybe you have even dated her. Her heart is full of gold and she only has eyes for the almighty dollar. She is a gold digger. Maybe she doesn’t come off as an Anna Nicole type. She isn’t on the arm of a millionaire who died and hasn’t yet been informed of this. Gold diggers do not come in the stereotypical forms that you can spot from a mile away. They are more cunning, come in different shapes and sizes, and are cunning as foxes. Sure, having a trophy wife does have its perks, but if you are looking for substance in your relationship then there are a few tips that might help you avoid the woman who is “all about the Benjamin’s”.

You can start by not listing your income on your profile. This will aide in weeding out those seeking a man for his money. While lots of sites offer a place to list income as a way for both parties to see if the person they are interested in is financially able to support a partner, most also offer a way to turn off this feature. Talking about money once in a relationship that has an established progression is not something to be worried about, but when you list that you are a millionaire you will find that you will be very popular.

A woman who wants a sugar daddy will be concerned with money. If she is looking for someone to make her a kept woman, then she will not want to waste any time finding out if she has struck gold in you. Beware the woman that at the very beginning of getting to know you, seems preoccupied with money, or tells you that she has a lot of debt. Keep in mind that when you marry someone, you marry their debt too, so watch out for her pushing marriage on you, especially if you know she has 10 credit cards, a full designer wardrobe, and is the hostess at Red Lobster. There is a good possibility that she is living beyond her means and is looking for a little more means to live beyond.

If you are already dating a woman, the easiest way to avoid being her sugar daddy is to remember this is the 21st century, not the 18th. It is ok for her to pay for you both and it can be ok for you to each pay together. But I warn you, use this tip carefully. Every woman wants to be pampered. She will get fed up if she is always paying for your broke self, or if you are still splitting the check when you have been together 3 years. Women still expect to be treated, even in this modern age.

Also, if you are serious about the relationship and it is moving forward, it is absolutely ok to talk about finances. As rude as it may seem, it is necessary to be realistic about the finances you both have. Once you are starting to consider moving in together or getting married the topic of finances needs to be brought up. Money is the number one cause of divorce in America, this being the case both you and her need to be honest about debt, income, and expenses. Again, beware of a woman who is up to her eyeballs in debt. Even if she isn’t meaning to have you as her sugar daddy, if you are joined in matrimony with her debt, and you have the means to pay it off, it will be you taking care of her mess.

The same principals that apply to her, apply to you also. If you are a man in lots of debt, you will find it easier to have meaningful and progressing relationships with women if you are working hard to not be in debt. No woman wants to be a mother to her significant other, doling out a weekly allowance and hiding the credit cards because her man isn’t responsible with his finances. Even if one person in the relationship makes significantly more money than the other, it’s ok, as long as there is a balance in the relationship. Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of, you worked hard to earn your money, don’t squander it away because a pretty face pouts that her $300 shoes are last season and simply will not do for the present.