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How to Describe Your Not-So-Perfect Self

When describing yourself in your profile on an online dating site, it is natural to not want to list your flaws. You want women to see you in the best light possible, and laying it out that you are overweight and unemployed might not seem like the best way to do that. Fortunately, there are some positive, even charming, things you can say to attract that special someone.

Divorced: Many people are worried about marking the “divorced” tab on their profile. Perhaps it is an automatic indicator of too much personal baggage, or it scares off potential dates because they might assume that there is something about you that broke up your marriage. This is not correct at all. Be honest about being divorced. Chances are, many of the women that look at your profile have also been through a divorce. However, it is very important that you refrain from talking about your ex, especially on your profile. You want women to know that you are a positive person looking for someone to share your great life with -- not a bitter person with loads of emotional baggage and a chip on his shoulder.

Physical traits: Maybe you are not comfortable filling out information regarding your height and weight, or posting a recent picture of yourself. The most important thing is to show you are comfortable with who you are, even if you have to fake it a little bit. When you are describing yourself in your profile, be honest and put some humor into the characteristics that you are not very fond of. Instead of describing yourself as short, say that you are horizontally-challenged. Making someone smile will stand out much more than your graying hair or few extra pounds. So many people on dating sites lie about how they look and post inaccurate photos. This only causes problems later on if you end up meeting a woman, and she is expecting something different than what she gets. Imagine how upset you would be if a woman described herself as “tall and thin, with long brown hair”, and when you meet her in person, the only thing that was accurate was the “long brown hair” part.

It is more important to describe aspects of your personality and let them look at your pictures to see how you look. Just make sure that you post clear, recent pictures. If you are in relatively good shape, but you are losing your hair, play up the part about being physically active. Write about things you love to do outside. If you are not in great shape, yet are intelligent, describe your love of books and aptitude for learning new things.

Workaholic: If you spend more hours at your desk than you do at home, it can be a good idea to give potential dates a heads up that you might not be the most available person. Instead of stating that you are a workaholic, or anything else that has a negative connotation, make it sound more positive. Describe yourself as ambitious, focused, or a hard-worker who loves his profession.

Unemployed: If you are currently unemployed, you might have had a hard time figuring out what to put in the “occupation” section of your profile. In this case, a little white lie is not going to hurt anyone. On your profile, mark the last position you held. When you get to know someone better, explain to them you are between jobs right now, or that you were recently laid off. Don’t waste profile space trying to explain why you are not currently working.

If you are discussing employment or your financial situation online or on a date, it is best to keep the conversations and descriptions to a minimum. Don’t write your profile out so it looks like a resume. Women do not need to know about your finances. If you are an ambitious person, that is an attractive quality. Build that part of your personality up instead of mentioning specifics about salary or work hours.

When you are filling out your profile for an online dating site, there are two main things to remember: Be honest and positive. Even if it is difficult to describe yourself as not so perfect, being honest about your personality will pay off. The best way to describe your flaws without scaring women off is by putting a positive spin on them. Who knows, you might even find someone who adores your little quirks.

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