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What Kind of Woman Are You Looking For?

When a woman comes into your life, how do you know if she is someone you want to share yourself with? There are several things to think about besides her charming personality, killer legs and beautiful smile.

Dating Goals – What are you hoping for when you log onto the online dating site after work? What are you looking for on a first date? A one-night stand? A summer fling? A good friendship? Marriage? Just because you have something particular in mind, does not mean she is thinking the same thing. Perhaps you are looking to eventually get married and have children. She might be looking for a friend with benefits. If you meet a woman online, clear up this confusing situation before you even step into it.

Hobbies – For the most part, you do not need to have the exact same hobbies. As a matter of fact, it is great if you both have different interests. You can broaden each other’s horizons and teach each other new things. It is also good to have things that you can do on your own. However, your tastes should be somewhat similar. If you practically live on your sailboat but she is terrified of water, you probably won’t be spending a lot of free time together doing what you love to do. Are you extremely active? You will want to be around someone who is also active, or you might be disappointed in their lack of enthusiasm when you want to spend a day hiking together. It works both ways… if you are not an active individual, you might want to think twice before getting serious with someone who spends the majority of their free time training for triathlons.

Finances – This is a topic that can get ugly. If you want a financially independent woman who will not depend on your paychecks for her shoe addiction, make sure that is what you are getting. If you have no problem supporting a big spender, this will not be an issue. Some men prefer to spend time with career-minded women, while other men would rather be with a woman who would not have a problem leaving her job to be at home. Financial and career issues can lead to big resentments in the future, so make sure that you talk about these topics early on.

Location – If your biggest dream is to live in France and she never wants to move out of her house that she built next door to her mother, that can be hard to work through. Maybe she is in the Army and relocates often, but you do not want to leave your job and home. It is best to talk about issues like this before they become big problems.

Children – Do you want to have children? Does she? If you are not a big fan of babies, and she has her heart set on a family of eight, you might have a problem. Whether or not to have children is not something that can be easily compromised. If neither of you really know what you want as far as kids go, you can probably just cross that bridge when you come to it.

Religion – I am not suggesting that you only date people in your own religion, or purposefully do not date people from specific religions. With some couples, each person being raised in a different religion is not a big deal. If you want to eventually have children with this person, keep in mind that it may become difficult in the future to agree on which religion to raise your children in.

Family Values – This goes right along with the religion subject. Different parents raise kids differently. Every person had a unique experience growing up, so every person has a unique idea of what raising children should be like. It is difficult to find out how a person is going to raise their kids. You cannot just ask a few questions and know that you are compatible in this area. Instead, keep an eye out for clues. When you are around her family, see how they all interact. Pick up on little comments that she makes when you see parents interacting with their children in public. You might find out that she thinks spanking kids is extremely inappropriate, but you have no problem with it. Maybe she grew up watching TV during dinner and cannot imagine it any other way, but you have your heart set on sitting around the dinner table with your kids. For the most part, parenting differences can probably be worked out as you go along, but sometimes you will see signs that raising a family with her might be a little scary.

Sex drive – This is one of the major topics that comes up in relationship counseling. Usually the man wants to have sex more than the woman does, and the man is left feeling unsatisfied, or vice versa. If you have an extremely high, or low, sex drive, and your partner has the opposite, it can lead to many problems.

One thing you can do right now to prepare for the future is to make a list of the qualities you want in a woman. Do not have any particular woman in mind when you make this list. Write down things that YOU want, and prioritize them. Some things are going to be must-haves, and some things are not going to be as important. Think about the things that I have listed above, and think of your own personal tastes. Do you want your dream woman to have a good sense of humor? Does she need to love dogs? Would you like a woman who loves to travel? Write all of these items out and look at them often.

If you know exactly what you want, you will know when the woman of your dreams comes along. This way you will not be settling for someone that does not have what you want, just because you did not know that you wanted it. If you have an online dating profile, you can mention some of these “qualifications” on your Website. That way, women who do not fit your criteria will realize that they are not what you are looking for. It will also show women that do match your idea of a wonderful woman that they are exactly what you are looking for.

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