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The Long-Run

You have found the woman of your dreams. She makes you happy and your relationship has been running smoothly for months. Now you are wondering when the illusion will be shattered. You wonder when things will change and this relationship will end like all of the others. This doesn't have to be the case. You can keep yourself from ending up broken hearted with nothing to show but an empty wallet and an empty email box.

After a while all relationships face a rut. It's just what happens when you go from the "new relationship butterflies" to the comfort zone. This is totally normal so don't freak out when you realize this is happening. Make sure that communication is the biggest part of your relationship. If your relationship has shifted focus to just sex or just having someone for the sake of having someone, then it may be time to re-evaluate. A really great way to keep her interested in you and your relationship in the long term is to talk about the relationship itself. Set benchmarks for yourself and once you get to certain points talk about where the relationship has come from and where you both want it to go from there. Talk about things that may be coming up that are bothersome and problematic.

When you do this you are showing the woman that you not only really care for her, but that you care about the relationship you are in. This shows here that you aren't just in it because you don't want to deal with being back in the dating scene. When she is talking to you about something, listen. Nothing upsets a woman more than a man who becomes passive in a relationship because he is already getting what he wants: sex. If you want to keep your relationship going strong, you need to remember that she is not a 2 bit whore, she is someone that you have a real interest in, and it should be for more than just sex, so treat her that way.

Things can also start to slack off in the bedroom when you and her have moved into the comfortable stage of your relationship. This is a danger zone! If you or she is not being satisfied sexually, there is a much bigger chance that one of you will stray. Making love should not be a chore, it should be something that you both enjoy and want to engage in. If things start to cool down it is time to fan the flames of passion. Turn on the romance and the charm, and watch her be mesmerized. Change things up in the bedroom as well. Try out new positions, new toys, new and fun foods to eat off her body. Communicate with her about what you want to happen and what turns you on. Ask her what would really get her going, and do it. Things very well could have changed since you first started having sex, so it's always good to see if there are changes that can be made to better the bedroom relationship.

Keep her guessing. If you want a woman to stay interested in you, stay interesting. You do not have to give up everything about yourself with in the first few months. There is always time and you should always keep some cards up your sleeve to pull out when things hit the doldrums. Just make sure that you aren't pulling out a wife or kids card that is not a good surprise. You can also stave away boredom with some changes in your routines, and by surprising yourself as well. Try new things, new activities, hanging out with new friends who have common interests. Start surprising her with treats and notes to let her know how much you are into her. Do things that neither of you have done before. By having new experiences together you can start to share things, and this will keep you both on your toes.

No one wants a relationship to end. Sometimes though, you just have to let things go. If you find that the problems that you have been having with your girlfriend are escalating with no resolution in site, then it may be just better to cut the ties that bind before it is too late. If you are bored with the relationship and when you reflect on what is happening in the relationship, including your feelings about the relationship, and you find that you are apathetic at best, then its time to end it. Sometimes people can be compatible when they first start dating, and then start to grow apart and become strangers, this happens too and is normal. As people we are constantly growing and changing, and when the partner is not moving in the same way then it shows in the relationship. When you both realize that you have nothing to talk about, that you are unable to relate to each other any more, and are as a general statement unhappy, move on with your lives, you will both be happier and you can find someone else and start over.