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Dating Tips
Your Mother Was Wrong
I was planning on telling you a story about what happened to me one time when I met a woman for happy hour, but I'll save that one for next week.
Right now I've got something serious I want to talk to you about.
I've got to be completely honest here, most people -- especially men... and especially when it comes to picking up women -- have a real "LOSER" attitude.
It's almost like you're expecting to strike out all the time. This way, if and when you don't -- if something positive actually happens -- you feel great since you've "pre-conditioned" yourself for the worse.
Now look at this from an outsiders point of view: If you were the coach of a basketball team, would your coaching to them include telling them to think they're always going to lose, this way if they win, it'll be a "nice surprise".
Of course not!
So then let me explain what you're doing to youself, because it's absolutely awful.
There's something called "programming", and it's actually just like television "programming" you're familiar with.
See, when you do something over and over and over again, it becomes a habit -- whether it's biting your nails... eating 2 soft chocolate chip cookies every night before you go to bed... smoking cigarettes... going to the gym... runnning...
Or Thinking Negative Thoughts About Yourself!
So what you've been doing this entire time, isn't just lowering your expectations about your dating and romance situation, you've actually been force-feeding yourself negative programming.
And what happens when you do this is, it lowers your overall performance in life, your expectations about yourself in ALL areas, your energy levels, your hopes for your future and your self-esteem!
See, when you're dealing with negative "energy", it drains you, plain-and-simple. Regardless of where it's coming from.
Now to be honest, most of us got a head start with this negative programming from our parents. Some parents may have told you flat-out, "you're no good"... and other moms and dads may not have told you these things directly, but you received these messages because you took on their own negaqtive perceptions they may have had about themselves, about how life is "supposed" to work, and their own frustrations and disappointments about personal failures or mistakes they made.
But there's good news here in all this mental goo!
The good news is, once you realize -- and this is the key, once you make a CONSCIOUS DECISION -- that what happened in your past has absolutely nothing to do with who you are and what your future will look like, unless you CHOOSE to let it, the only way you're going to be walking around with that LOSER attitude about yourself, is if you allow yourself to.
Stop giving yourself permission to do this!
Granted, making the shift to overcome this negative programming may not be the easiest thing in the world for you to do, but you definitely CAN erase that negative tape loop that plays in the back of your mind when you want it least.
There are a couple of good books I can recommend about success, the first one is Think And Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, and I'd also have a look at The New Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz.
The other good thing is, inside my new online dating system, I talk extensively about how to start thinking about yourself, and how to position yourself, so you not only feel good about YOU, but so women you're speaking to and contacting online, can actually "sense" your inner strength and confidence!
Now go find the woman of your dreams,
Chet Rowland, The Chetinator
Creator of Chet's "Automatic" Online Dating System
The World's First Sexual Attraction System For Men
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